There are so many different things that happen in life that it truly is impossible to have everything go your way. No matter who you are, you will face quagmires, turmoils, debacles and turbulences in your life long journey, but does it matter? You may not get the result or happy ending you want, but these times will past bye.
In our everyday lives, we will meet different types of people. People who are supercilious, complacent, garrulous, indolent, lavish, benevolent, cantankerous or even downright nefarious, but will it really matter in the long run? Thinking about it, maybe it will, maybe it won’t. Life is very perplexing and paradoxical in nature. Anything can’t happen, and more often than not, we don’t have any control of what can occur. Maybe this matters, then again, maybe it doesn’t.
We truly won’t know what does matter most right now, but I realized that life’s too short to stress upon what matters and what doesn’t. Somethings may mean the world to you right now, but tomorrow, or next week, or next month, or next year, will it be the same?
See, you can’t answer that, can you? A lot of the things we value right now are more o ften than not fleeting and ephemeral things that only give temporary happiness. What I’m trying to say is that what matters most is something that should matter most not just today but everyday for the rest of your life. That’s what matters MOST! And you know what, I’ve realized that you’ll only truly be able to see and know this during the end of your life.
Life is continuosly changing!!!!
Life is a kaleidoscopic, our perceptions about it change with our mindset. If we are happy our life would seem us meaningful and joyful. While if we are sad our life would appear to be and exasperating thing.“Why I am here” gives me both the thoughts i.e. positive or negative {however to me there are no plus or minus like things}. It’s positive when it says to me live and let live, though it seems difficult because there seems some people around you who neither live nor let you live. And negative when these people make your life hell.
To live is to breathe, eat, drink, sleep and the rest of the physiological functions of an organism, which are usually universal to all organisms. This is the meaning of living.
However, you can ask, “what am I here?” Well, you are here because you were born successfully, and didn’t die, yet. That’s all to it, really.
There is nothing really fascinating about the meaning of life when these truths are acknowledged. The rest of your life’s meaning is either up to you or dictated by the social norms of your culture.
None of us, I believe, can really see into the extremely distant past to the first point where humankind was first created or evolved, and how can one truly trust ancient documents that may not only contradict each other, but also can be inaccurate and even completely wrong?
Life is an existence into a grand non-existence of void. The grand majority of the universe is devoid of sentient lifeforms. We only have our own selves within our only sapient solitude.
This is why we created shared illusions such as “norms”, “rules”, “cultures”, “morality” and “religions” – to keep us away from the meaninglessness, to keep us distracted from venturing into the emptiness and purposelessness of this reality, which is the only concrete reality known to us. Sorry to break it up to you, everything is earthly.
What you do have, however, is your own freedom to grant your life a meaning. The possibilities of this granting are limitless like the universe itself. You don’t even have to follow a certain social dogma in order to define a meaning into your own existence. The term “meaning” may be subjective and subjectivity is liberty. We are subjective beings, and therefore we are liberated even if we were to be put in a cage. No one can take our freedom of creating and managing our own mindsets within the isolation of the individual consciousness.
It is just a matter of exercise, and that exercise of internal freedom is best handled while alone, away from cultural distractions being imposed on you as “truths”. Why should one see cultural values as “true” if they subjective constructs, i.e, made by other people?
You are the creator of your own meaning. That specific meaning doesn’t have to be true to other people. Meaning is a customized engine for the vehicle that is the life-force of the individual. You better be equipped with this kind of engine, or else you may risk falling into the depths of depression and nihilism. Of course we live in a voidful universe, but it doesn’t mean we have to be hollow, too. We are different from the rocks and the star dusts; we are self-conscious creators, with our minds being the multi-purpose key to whatever we may choose to do with it and to design it.
You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.” – Steve Maraboli
Every best thing on the Planet came from a ‘Purpose’ not of a ‘Sake’ .
If you find purpose you discovered your life!! 🙂
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Psychology correlate purpose with “sense of achievement/fulfilment” that humans experience when trying to complete challenging tasks and that the experience comes from the way tasks are approached and performed rather than the choice of task itself. Wong has suggested that the four components form the basis of life, those are purpose, understanding, responsibility, and enjoyment (PURE):
Neuroscience believes that the meaning of life is to maximize pleasure and to ease general life,
Sociology examines value at a social level and states that human meaning is derived from a fundamental fear of death, and values are selected when they allow us to escape the mental reminder of death.
Health Science as expected correlate meaning of life with better physical and mental health.
When question of life is involved how philosophers and religious gurus can be left behind, they have also pondered over this topic and have quite a few interesting suggestions.
Philosophers feel that most obvious purpose is to realize one’s potential, seek wisdom and knowledge. Some feels that to love, to be loved and enjoy life, to do good and right things. Philosophically speaking the meaning of life is to care for other humans and make some sort of impact on the world. It can be as small an impact as helping others, but for one’s life to have meaning little more is needed. Life has the meaning that we give it. is the purpose whereas some found this question quite irrelevant.
Religions have their own different versions; monotheist feel “to serve the God” is prime purpose while on other side, while other religion feels that reaching the highest echelon of consciousness is the goal of human being.
Of course, using that line of logic, much of human suffering can be eliminated by finding a purpose, or meaning for one’s life.
In his description of Logotherapy, Frankl’s stance on finding one meaning fascinated me.
Frankl argues that while of course every person’s life will have a main overarching meaning, that particular meaning will only be realized at the end of one’s life. So essentially, he argues that, as opposed to overwhelming yourself by trying to figure out what the one meaning of your whole life is, find purpose and meaning in every situation. If you consistently make meaningful choices on a situational basis, you are bound to have a meaningful life in the end.
I must say that I love this more granular approach to meaning. After reading his stance, my wheels began spinning and below are some of my thoughts on this topic.
I like this ideology because it adds a bit of excitement to meaning ─ every person can have a bunch of their own unique purposes to be fulfilled, based on the situation they’re in.
I also like thinking about meaning in this manner because it encourages us to be more conscientious about every decision we make and action we take. Additionally, even when we’re in pain or suffering, we have the choice to see handling such situations with grace as a purpose to be fulfilled in that moment.
This also got me thinking on an even more granular scale ─ as a mental exercise, we should see every thought we choose to entertain as serving a particular purpose. What I mean by that is, if one finds themselves getting caught up in a particular thought, they should ask themselves, “Is this a constructive thought that can lead me to taking a constructive action?”
I have found this exercise to be enormously helpful in my own life as of late.
I’m sure that like me, many of you find yourselves getting caught up in thoughts that serve no useful purpose. How often have you driven yourself crazy worrying about something that not only never happened, but thinking about it had no possibility of changing the outcome anyways?
By ensuring that a thought passes the “constructive thought test” I described above, we can save ourselves a lot of mental anguish.
Another expansion on Frankl’s ideas I’ve come up with, is to start seeing every thought and response to a situation from an ethical perspective. In other words, is this thought that I’m giving so much energy to the best thing that I can be thinking about right now to be the best person I can be for not only myself but for the people I love? ─ Because let’s be honest, sometimes irrational anxious thoughts rummage around in our brain that serve no useful purpose and should be ignored.
Additionally, is the action I am about to take, or how I am about to respond to this particular situation, the most constructive way for me to do so in order to best fulfill my purpose in this present moment? ─ We should use our conscious as a compass to judge whether or not an action is in alignment with our purpose.
Because I didn’t have faith in my own ability.
I didn’t know then what I know now
Oh, and get ready for the epic transformation that will come about as a result!
The answers we seek are within us already!
Every single thing we need to know is already here and accessible. We just have to be still enough to listen and then have the patience and faith to let it unfold.
In 2017 I learned to let go.
I let go of
- control
- judgment
- the need for perfection…
But mostly I let go of the belief that I wasn’t already more than enough!
I began to tune in daily to my deepest thoughts and feelings and I let them come out.
I started to be completely unfiltered in my messaging and in the way I interacted with people.
I no longer felt the need to hide or be anyone other than my amazing self!
I started to tell my story, warts and all, with no fear!
I realised that in doing so, not only was I helping others, I was healing myself!
I started to make some important choices and these are choices I continue to make daily:
- I choose to tune in daily!
- I choose to act from my intuition, even if it makes no sense at all!
- I choose to put ME first!
- I choose FAITH!
I am turning my life around
In November, I started a podcast after feeling called to do so. http://lillibadcock.com/podcas
Within two weeks it had hit New and Noteworthy on ITunes and at the time of writing this article it has been downloaded over 25,000 times and it’s only 7 weeks old!
I now receive regular emails from people telling me that I’m making a difference!
My point?
There is no missing piece! This is all possible for you too!
Stop focusing on what you can’t do and instead stop, breathe, ask for the guidance you need, and then listen for the answers.
They will come I promise!
And when they do, trust the process and allow the magic to unfold!
This is the most important part!
Let 2018 be the year you let the world see you in all your amazing glory!
