“The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves.
We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid.
We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it.
We fear that if we don’t have love, we will be unhappy.” ― Richard Bach
The Worst Types Of Lies – 8 Harmful Lies You Tell Yourself
Want to know the worst types of lies? There are the 8 harmful lies you tell yourself.
Do you tell any of these to yourself? If so, beware these lies!
Frances Vidakovic
With a degree in psychology, Frances Vidakovic is a certified life coach for goal getters, author of 20+ books, host of the Dream Big My Friend podcast and course creator.
Her superpower: transforming moms from dreamers into doers. Frances has been featured on various platforms, including Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, Medium
and SBS Radio.
Hey my friend,
Lying to others is bad enough but lying to yourself is the worst of all lies.
Do you know why?
Because you can lie to anyone else in the world but you can’t ever lie to yourself.
Not really.
Deep down you know the truth.
The lies you tell yourself usually have an insidious purpose.
You’re either trying to absolve yourself of responsibility or justifying inaction.
Be warned: the damage you do by lying to yourself is tremendous.
A lie may care about the present but it seriously has no future.
The truth may not cost anything right now but a lie
over time could cost you everything.
Tell a lie once and all your truths become questionable.
She was so used to lies, that the truth confused her. ― Jeff Hood
Lies may leave you at peace with others but you will always be at war with yourself. ― Marinela Reka
Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own life comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him or around him and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love. ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Here are 8 harmful lies you should avoid so you can finally take back control of your life:
TYPES OF LIES
# 1 – There will be time in the future to do it.
Do you want to do it or not?
Often, we enjoy the idea of doing something, but lack the interest or
determination to put it in time, work, or sacrifice to make it happen.
Playing the guitar might sound like fun to you, but the idea of putting
in hours of work to play at a mediocre level isn’t appealing.
But here’s the truth: time waits for no one. If you really want to do it, you’ll find a way.
If you don’t, you’ll find 1,000 reasons to put it off and procrastinate.
Realize that you choose how you spend your time.
The trouble is, you think you have time. ― Jack Kornfield
Lost time is never found again. ― Benjamin Franklin
Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it,
but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back. ― Harvey Mackay
It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important. – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince
Regret for wasted time is more wasted time. ― Mason Cooley
A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life. ― Charles Darwin
Either you run the day, or the day runs you. ― Jim Rohn
TYPES OF LIES
# 2 – I can change another person.
Think about how difficult it is to change yourself.
Any change is extremely challenging, even when you’re highly motivated.
Odds are that the person you want to change is less than enthusiastic.
You have a losing battle on your hands.
If it’s vital that the other person change,
you’d be better off finding another person to fulfill the role.
You cannot always control what goes on outside.
But you can always control what goes on inside. ― Wayne Dyer
When you let go of control and commit yourself to happiness, it is so easy to offer compassion and forgiveness. This propels you from the past, into the present.
People that are negative, spend so much time trying to control situations and blame others for their problems. Committing yourself to staying positive is a daily mantra that states, “I have control over how I plan to react, feel, think and believe in the present. No one guides the tone of my life, except me! ― Shannon L. Alder
I don’t have any control over what actually happens except for that I have full control over my will for myself, my intention, and why I’m here. That’s all that matters. ― Sza
TYPES OF LIES
# 3 – I’m not like anyone else / there’s something wrong with me.
Everyone believes they’re different from others.
You are certainly unique, but you’re remarkably similar to the average person.
You’re not deficient or flawed.
You are perfectly perfect and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you!
This type of thinking serves as an excuse to play the victim
and remain small.
TYPES OF LIES
# 4 – It will get better or go away if I just ignore it.
Things tend to get worse if ignored.
Because guess what?
Challenges will never, ever, ever, ever go away!
Unless you have a magical fairy taking care of business for you,
you’ll have to deal with the challenges of life directly.
Otherwise, you’ll find your challenges grow and multiply.
It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station,
that great characters are formed.
The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. ― Adams
The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out.
The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.
Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.
They’re there to stop the other people. ― Randy Pausch
Life’s Challenges Are Not Supposed To Paralyze You,
They’re Supposed To Help You Discover Who You Are. ― Bernice Johnson Reagon
I don’t run away from a challenge because I am afraid.
Instead, I run towards it because the only way to escape fear is to trample it beneath your foot. ― Nadia Comaneci
Success Is Due To Our Stretching To The Challenges Of Life.
Failure Comes When We Shrink From Them. ― John C. Maxwell
Being Challenged In Life Is Inevitable, Being Defeated Is Optional. ― Roger Crawford
It’s Lack Of Faith That Makes People Afraid Of Meeting Challenges, And I Believed In Myself. ― Muhammad Ali
When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment,
there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready.
The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. ― Paulo Coelho
TYPES OF LIES
# 5 – I’m too young / I’m too old.
Sure, it’s true that you won’t be a CEO at 3-years of age or start medical school at 106.
However, age is much less limiting than you believe.
History has proven it time and time again.
The young and old have accomplished incredible things.
You can too.
You are not too old and it’s not too late.
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. ― C.S. Lewis
It is not too late. You are not too old. You are right on time – and you are better
than you know. ― Marianne Williamson
TYPES OF LIES
# 6 – I don’t have any other choice.
You have more choices than you could possibly realize.
Here’s the thing: everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made.
If you want a different result, make a different choice.
If your habitual actions and thoughts are limiting,
you really need to open your mind to all the possibilities.
There are always other choices.
Brainstorm with a creative friend and investigate your other options.
Remember however that you are free to make whatever choice
you want but you are not free from the consequences of the choice.
Life is about choices. Some we regret; some we’re proud of. Some will haunt us forever. The message: we are what we choose to be. ― Graham Brown
May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. ― Nelson Mandela
It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. ― Roy Disney
TYPES OF LIES
# 7 – I don’t want to make a fool out of myself.
Like most of us, you’re probably far too inhibited.
You’re not a teenager anymore.
It’s time to let go of the fear of others’ opinions.
An exciting life is boldly lived.
You need to live boldly.
When you’re bold, you’re going to receive some negative feedback.
When you’re timid though, you’ll still receive negative comments.
You’ll be criticized no matter what you do, so do what’s best for you.
Remember that 99% of the time, no one really cares.
Everyone is too absorbed with their own issues.
Act boldly and unseen forces will come to your aid. ― Dorothea Brande
The doors will be opened to those who are bold enough to knock. ― Tony Gaskins
We need to be visionary; we have to be bold. ― Angela Hunt
Good Fortune favors the bold. ― James Swartz
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
TYPES OF LIES
# 8 – It’s too late.
This is similar to “I’m too old.”
Starting a business might have been more convenient before
you got married and had children, but it’s still a possibility.
Honestly it is NEVER too late to chase a dream!
The idea that it’s too late is just another excuse to justify staying where you are, comfortable in your own misery.
All in all, by lying, you take the responsibility off of your shoulders and redistribute it.
You lie to yourself in order to protect yourself from possible failure.
And you really need to know the truth.
It’s never too late to start over.
It’s never too late for a new beginning in your life.
If you weren’t happy with yesterday, try something different today.
Don’t stay stuck.
Do better.
The time to make changes is now.
It is never too late to be what you might have been. ― George Eliot
The time for action is now. It’s never too late to do something. ― Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Never too old, never too bad, never too late, never too sick to start from scratch once again. ― Bikram Choudhury
But lying to yourself ensures that you’ll stay stuck.
Start being honest with yourself and face life head-on.
You’ll be glad you did!
The most dangerous lies are the lies you tell yourself.
So stop lying to yourself.
You can lie to anyone else in the world but you can’t lie to yourself.
Our lives improve only when we take chances and the first and most
difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
Before you go… A Leap of Faith is the Act of Believing or
Accepting Something Outside the Realm of Reason.
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