“Two souls don’t find each other by simple accident.” – Jorge Luis Borges
”Two souls don’t find each other by… – 𝓜𝔂 𝓜𝓮𝓵𝓪𝓷𝓬𝓱𝓸𝓵𝔂 …
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There are many who feel that it is not even possible that two souls are meant just for each other. The fling culture has made sure that most people in this day and age don’t associate dating and love, or rather love with permanence.
But what happens when, despite all the skepticism, two souls which are meant to be together, come together? Thus begins an enchanted journey, which will see them always coming together because the universe itself wants to see them with each other.
And when the universe itself is making sure that your paths will always cross, it is futile to say no. even their romance is one notch higher than those of the others because it is backed up by the most inexplicable and powerful source, the cosmos itself.
So what does a relationship like this feel like?
1) You can be your most original self:
You finally have a person in front of whom you don’t have to hide any aspect of your personality. They accept and love you, every bit of you, flaws included. And when you are comfortable enough to let them see your shortcomings, they will also be happy enough to help you get over them.
2) There is a lot of spontaneity in your conversations:
You never have to wait and weigh your words when you are talking to them. You know that they will understand the meaning beneath your words and not focus on the words themselves.
This also means that you will be spontaneous in your exchange with them, and many a bright idea will be shared among the two of you.
3) There is equal freedom for both the partners:
True love is when the relationship allows both individuals to grow separately as well as together. Personal space is very important and when you have someone like them in your life, they won’t ever second guess your motive, nor will you second guess them.
There will be fights and misunderstandings but at the end of the day, all can be resolved because both of you would know the importance of each other.
Anyone who has been in love or experienced this pure emotion would know how liberating it feels. However, the problem is that we sometimes confuse other feelings and emotions for love. And when these feelings or emotions bring us conflict or unhappiness we blame love and think of it as something that is to be avoided at all costs. Romance is usually a rocky road for many because of the high expectations and the subsequent hurts that it entails.
Love is in fact freeing, but when we add the attachment to the mix, things get all confused and messed up.
I know the concept of love sans attachment might seem quite strange for many. But it is actually wrong when we confuse attachment for love. But attachment is the reason we bring all the miseries of heartbreak upon us. The attachment has quite a few markers which are similar to love. In both of these you sort of give yourself over to the person you love. You stop thinking about yourself and care only for the happiness of the other person.
In fact, this is what allows people to write impeccable verses describing the beauty of their lover. A lot of great art has come into existence thanks to the artist’s beloved. But attachment also has a very definite downside. We start believing that our entire life will come to a standstill just because the person we love (whom we might not even have known a few months ago) leaves us. The sole purpose of our life is turned into pleasing this other person.
Love is a much vast experience in comparison. It is definitely not limited to just one person, the so-called ‘object of our love’. True love is universal. Someone who has known the secret of how to love- will love every being and non-being alike. It requires an understanding of the inherent unity in the universe. All of us are one. And therefore it makes no sense loving (or rather getting attached) to one part of the creation and not the other. Such an all-encompassing love is liberating and the true essence of what it means to love. When we love only a certain person, we are being selfish to them. True love is never selfish.
Here are a few pointers which will help you understand love better:
1) Make sure you are in love, not in love with something or someone.
Can you narrow down the object of your love to one person? In that case, it cannot be love. Love flows in all directions and for everyone and everything. But if you feel this way only towards one person- you are in for a fall. This is the attachment. And attachment never bodes well. Attachment makes you clingy and needy. Don’t let attachment limit and chain you to only one person. Learn to love everyone and everything. If you feel that you are becoming attached to just one person, take care not to let this attachment grow any further.
Don’t choose something which will limit you in the place of something which is truly freeing. It might seem difficult at first to not obsess over someone you like, but it is not impossible. When you allow yourself to not get attached to them, you will see that you are able to love deeper. Loving one person might make you selfish, which is not what love is about.
2) Don’t try to label, hoard or hold on to love.
Love is a fleeting feeling. And it is best enjoyed like that, living in the moment. As much as you might like it, you cannot bind it. When we first experience love, the feeling is so overwhelming that we want to capture it and want to keep it with us forever. But the moment you try to bind love, you are giving in to attachment. You cannot bound love, it will only turn sour or worse. For instance, when you see a beautiful flower- your first instinct is to pluck it from its garden and keep it with you. It will definitely give you the momentary pleasure of having it in your possession. But it will soon wilt away and turn bad. The moment you seek to take control of the object of your love- it turns into attachment. Love is momentary. You need to appreciate it in the moment.
If you start thinking that having a certain person in your life is crucial for your existence, leave immediately. You have become attached to them. And this will lead to conflict. You might try to limit them or yourself in trying to hold on to each other. You need to realize that limiting each other will also mean hindering the wholesome development that each individual needs. Let it go. The memories of a perfect moment are enough, you don’t have to try and prolong that perfect moment, it will only malign it.
3) Don’t try to control someone because you want your love to be perfect
.Remember the in-the-moment nature of love. This also means that love doesn’t care how perfect or imperfect someone is. Love happens out of the blue and just as the person is. Thinking about improving on your partner, telling them how they could be better is not living in the moment. It is anticipating the future, and that is the beginning of the end of true love.. Love doesn’t require change. In fact, love is quite in opposition to attachment or this need for perfection. Love is spontaneous and all about the quirks that make you an individual. Don’t get caught up in the idea that you need to be perfect for your spouse or they need to change certain aspects about themselves. All of that is just attachment talking. Love someone for exactly how they are, not some imaginary perfect image of their future.
In Conclusion:
:Just because love is momentary, doesn’t mean that your relationship has to be. Love will come and go as it pleases. Instead of being daunted by it, try to welcome it every time it comes around, and enjoy it to the fullest for however long it lasts. You don’t have to limit or change yourself or your partner for true love. Those are only the urges of attachment, learn to break away from them.
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Kate Rose is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, teacher, mother, rule breaker, and rebel. She can usually be found walking barefoot in the moonlight between worlds with the dreams of stars still hanging in her hair, swaying her hips to the music of life and smelling of sweet bourbon and honeysuckle. She lives for adventure and wakes each morning with the excitement of a new day waiting to unfold at her feet. She truly believes the best is yet to come and waits, with bated breath, to see what it may hold. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram, and find more of her words on her website.
Elephant Journal
Nothing happens by chance.
In this world that we are blessed to live in, every single meeting and chance encounter serves a greater purpose. Sometimes, we need people to wake us up and help change the direction of our lives; at other times, we need people to uplift us and remind us who we are. And sometimes, it’s simply about those who are meant to hold space for us.
Ironically, we aren’t meant to know the purpose of every person we meet in this life, but we are meant to remain open to whatever each encounter will reveal.
In some ways, we have to look at the world as having connections running all through it—some threads are silken and crimson, while others are roughened burlap.
Each thread depicts a different meeting that has yet to occur.
We are meant to interact with one another in this life and let our lives overlap. It sometimes seems that social media is chasing away the need for those real life connections, but something within our own minds begins to shift when we start to truly believe that every single thing that happens does so for a reason.
Not all encounters are supposed to last forever; sometimes, those meetings come in for just a mere moment in time. Perhaps it was to delay you, so that a car accident would be missed—or even to arrange a meeting for you with a potential lover. Sometimes, the universe sends us people to help us on our journey, even if they aren’t meant to be a significant part of it.
Life is a magical mystery of synchronicity, which is the belief that the universe sends us signs along the way to help direct us toward our life purpose. This can be the random meeting of people, angels, numbers, songs, and even feathers letting us know that there is a plan in place that we are not yet aware of.
Sometimes it seems that the more amazing something is the less we can actually recognize it in our lives. Perhaps we can’t truly ever plan for destiny—but maybe we can prepare ourselves for it by making room for the unexpected.
I suppose these are those individuals who come into our lives permanently, or at least for an extended period of time.
Sometimes, these are even soulmates or twin flames. These individuals come into our lives to create a roadblock for us. They ultimately stop us from living the life that we had been, and they make it impossible to ignore the call to awaken.
In many ways, these people are those who are rare gold, and we can sometimes sense them upon our initial meeting. Usually there is a sense of recognition in our eyes as well as a familiar vibration between individuals, yet this doesn’t mean that they aren’t meant to disrupt the status quo.
When we are young, we all have an idea of how we think our life will go—and then we get to the place where all we can do is laugh because of the actual path that it is taking. Nothing goes according to plan, but that’s because things aren’t meant to.
Instead, we sometimes receive divine intervention from these souls who are sent to us because of prior soul contracts. In essence, we have agreed to meet in this life prior to being born; we have agreed upon the time and even the meeting place.
All that is then left is for fate to play out, so that we can be directed back toward ourselves and the life purpose that we have yet to fulfill.