You are beautiful and worthy in the eyes of Jesus.
Never forget that… Everyone has strange, unusual or even disturbing thoughts, images, unwanted impulses or ideas that pop up from time to time and won’t go away. Most people continue about their daily life without giving these experiences a second thought, these kinds
of occurrences can become both distressing and debilitating.
Reassurance encourages clients to believe in themselves and in the real possibility
of improvement. It is common in many forms of
psychotherapy. Reassurance is also useful in diminishing anxiety by explaining to a client
that the feeling of anxiety or tension is temporary and not to be considered unexpected.
“Reassurance can be of great benefit to some anxiety sufferers.”
Related Psychology Terms
DIRECT SUGGESTION
PSYCHOTHERAPY
SYSTEMATIC RATIONAL RESTRUCTURING
COUNTERTRANSFERENCE
GROUP EXPERIENCE
PASSIVE LISTENING
DISTRIBUTIVE ANALYSIS AND SYNTHESIS
RELATIONSHIP THERAPY
DIRECTIVE COUNSELING
AUTHENTICITY
Being human means needing reassurance sometimes. Even the most secure people have moments of self-doubt, insecurity, and feeling overwhelmed. Whether you need a little or lots of validation, this is nothing to be ashamed of. Many of us didn’t receive reassurance growing up. We didn’t get the memo that we have worth and value—and that we’re OK just as we are. As a result, we may have a reassurance deficit, which propels us to continually look outside ourselves for validation to help us feel grounded.
If we grew up with a heavy dose of criticism or neglect, we may not have developed a secure internal base. If we didn’t have a safe and healthy attachment with caregivers, we may not have a stable inner platform from which to operate confidently in an unpredictable world. Human beings are not isolated entities. Our sense of self develops through our interactions with people. We need positive mirroring to feel good about ourselves and life.
Seeking reassurance is a healthy expression of our need for positive contact, validation, and mirroring. But it’s helpful to be mindful of the pitfalls. Have you ever taken a risk to reveal your concerns or fears to someone who tried to reassure you, but made you feel worse? Perhaps they said, “There’s nothing to be afraid of” or “Everything will be OK.”
Their intention is probably good, but what If you are feeling afraid? Your friend may have unknowingly added a dose of shame; you may now think something is wrong with you for feeling afraid. We don’t feel better by receiving false reassurances, but rather by feeling validated for whatever we’re feeling. We’re comforted by receiving caring and empathy.
Rather than hearing “You don’t need to be afraid,” we might feel reassured by hearing something like “I can understand how scary that is,” or “I’d also be afraid if that were happening to me.” If a friend is seeking advice, you might offer some—or direct them toward a source of potential help, such as a therapist, a medical practitioner, or a book or article.
But most often, people are simply seeking your empathic ear and kind heart. It’s the warm human connection that offers the most comforting reassurance, not your advice or thoughts. Your open, non-judgmental presence offers the reassurance that your friend is cared about and not alone. Non-verbal responses, such as a head nod or some soothing sounds or words (mm-hmm, oh wow, I see), may be more powerful than advice. If you find yourself needing reassuring presence or validation, it doesn’t mean you’re an insecure person;
it simply means you’re human.
It takes courage to reach out and ask for support when needed. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pV6-QqitjOc&feature=emb_titleYou might start a conversation with something like, “I’m feeling a need for some reassurance (or support). Is this a good time… or when would be a good time to talk?” Or, “There’s something bugging me. Are you OK if I talk with you about it?” A friend may be touched by your vulnerable expression and trust, listen be happy.
In order to orient your friend’s listening position, you might want to express what you need, such as “I just need you to listen” or “I need a sounding board.” Or, if you want a reality check, you might add, “If you have any doubts, thoughts, input, or perspectives on what I’m saying, please tell me.” I suggest being a little careful about taking too much time when seeking a friend’s reassurance. People have limited time and attention spans.
Use your intuition or check in occasionally to see if your friend has reached a limit, or ask them to tell you when they have. A good friend might tell you. There may be others who don’t want to offend you, but may distance themselves from you if you speak for too long. After some time, you may want to check in with them to see if there is anything they want to talk about so it becomes a more balanced reassurance.
A big obstacle around seeking reassurance is not letting it in when we get it. Continually seeking reassurance may signal that we’re not soaking it up when it drifts our way. No one is fully self-sufficient, even if they pretend to be. The most insecure among us are those who don’t acknowledge their fears and insecurities. It’s a blessing to find people with whom we feel safe to share our vulnerability when we feel anxious or insecure. A reciprocal sharing of our humanity, including our need for reassurance, builds trust and connection.
Reassurance can be defined as a special kind of education that counteracts fears. Reassurance relieves or removes unnecessary anxiety, especially regarding one’s physical or emotional health. Reassurance is the physician’s most commonly used type of counseling. Reassurance is very therapeutic. Parents need some reassurance during almost every office visit or phone call. Reassurance is more likely to be effective if certain guidelines are followed
To be effective, reassurance must be properly timed. It should never be too hasty or offered too early. In patients with emotional concerns, a careful history should be elicited. Reassurance based on meager data is likely to be unconvincing to the parent. Only after the parent or child believes that the physician has explored the problem adequately and understands it will be
the acceptable reassurance we’re seeking.
My Heart is Spoken For:
Be Specific
The most effective reassurance is specific and focused. The targeted concern or worry is identified by listening carefully. A parent may be afraid primarily of a brain tumor in a child with recurrent headaches, appendicitis in a child with recurrent abdominal pains, or a heart attack in a child with chest pains. When the precise overriding fear is identified, the physician can carefully investigate that specific concern and offer reassurance when the fear is unfounded. Blanket reassurance (e.g., “There’s nothing to worry about,” “Everything will be just fine,” or other extravagant promises) leads the parent to suspect the physician of being insensitive or even dishonest, and dilutes the value of any specific advice.
Be Honest
What the physician tells the parents must be honest. If the physician is caught in one lie,
the balance of his or her reassurance is thrown into question. The physician need not reveal everything he or she is thinking. Any nonessential data that would be anxiety producing can
be withheld (e.g., the differential diagnosis).
Be Brief
Reassurance should be offered in as few words as possible. When reassurance is tenuous,
the physician may be tempted to prolong the discussion of the aspects of the case that are reassuring. Most parents sense that the physician is hiding his or her real feelings and worries behind a long speech.
Universalize the Problem
Physicians can offer great comfort to parents and children by commenting on the universality of their problems (when appropriate). Statements such as, “Do you know any 3-year olds who don’t have tantrums?” or “That argument goes on in every home where there’s a 16-year-old” can alleviate much anxiety.
Provide Nonverbal Reassurance
Nonverbal messages often communicate more to the parent than the physician’s words. The physician always shows concern for the patient without expressing alarm. A physician can examine a patient’s heart without wearing a worried facial expression. If a parent relates a history of symptoms that have frightened him or her to a physician who remains calm, he or she often concludes, “If this doesn’t upset my doctor, I guess everything is going to be all right.” Most parents and children believe body language more than words or logic.
Examples of Reassurance:
Reassurance is the initial treatment of hypermobility. Although hypermobility may enable a child to be a good gymnast or ballet dancer, injuries may be more frequent. Some children benefit from a post-activity or evening dose of acetaminophen or a nonsteroidal antiinflammatory drug (NSAID). The more severely affected elderly may need help by formal physical therapy that focuses on reestablishment of normal muscle power and overall reconditioning. Taping or bracing of troublesome joints and the use of orthotics may be advantageous. Those with more widespread pain may also benefit from cognitive behavioral techniques. For instance Children who “crack their knuckles” are frequently hypermobile.
Parents are often concerned this activity might lead to joint damage, however, it is probably not a cause of later osteoarthritis. The fact of giving advice or help that takes away a person’s fears or doubts AND to give/provide/offer reassurance. Teenagers need love, encouragement and reassurance from their parents. THE ELDERLY ARE OFTEN Very insecure and ARE constantly seeking reassurance. To Heal Tap Into Your Reconnection: Your Higher self, non-physical self, trusting your instincts or intuition and frequencies, Provides You With The Reconnective Power of Healing.
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Have you ever needed a miracle?
Or wondered why some people get healed when you pray for them and other people don’t? We are so blessed to serve the God of Miracles, but we often struggle to believe a miracle is possible for us personally. It’s so easy to get offended when healing doesn’t come, and begin to believe those kinds of things don’t happen anymore. Not because scripture tells us to expect the miracles to end, but because we’ve come to believe our experiences…or lack of experiences more than we believe the Bible. Maybe we just need a reminder of the miracle working God we serve to build our faith.
Types of Miracles:
Provision
Jesus performed many miracles of provision including turning water to wine, feeding the 5,000, feeding the 4,000, and money from a fish’s mouth. And there are also multiple Old Testament examples of mana, water from a rock, flour and oil for bread that continued to multiply, and the ram caught in the thicket for Abraham to sacrifice.
We see these miracles today often through financial provision but for physical needs as well. Things like checks in the mail, food or supplies that stretch longer than they should, unexpected sales, finding money, people feeling led to give to us, and more.
Protection
Daniel protected in the lion’s den, his friends making it safely through the fiery furnace, the Red Sea parting for the Israelites to escape the Egyptian army, Joseph warned in a dream about Herod coming after Jesus, the storm calmed by Jesus when the disciples were afraid, the Bible is full of stories of supernatural protection.
Sometimes we miss our own stories of supernatural protection because we have no idea how bad things could have been.
Healing Yourself.
Physical, emotional, and spiritual healing are some of the most well known miracles.
This can include the blind seeing, the deaf ear opened, cancer disappearing, the depression lifting, the demonic cast out, and so much more. Scripture is full of examples of Jesus healing
all kinds of diseases and He commanded us to do the same.
Heal the sick, raise the dead, restore the outsider, cast out demons.
Freely you received, freely you give.” Matthew 10:8
Signs and Wonders:
Signs and wonders can include a whole host of supernatural manifestations that don’t necessarily bring provision, protection, or healing but speak to the power and glory of God.
Jesus walking on water, the veil tearing in the temple at the moment of the crucifixion, the star leading the wise men to Jesus, and the fig tree withering when Jesus cursed it are just a few examples from scripture. In recent years gemstones, gold dust, feathers, or oil manifesting supernaturally have become common signs and wonders which of course require a proper focus on the Giver of the sign or wonder instead of an obsession with the sign itself.
The Naturally Supernatural.
We often fail to recognize the miracles we see as such. All healing is God’s healing whether medical or miracle. Healing doesn’t have to be a spontaneous to be a miracle. Many of the healing miracles I have seen are supernatural acceleration of healing instead of instantaneous.
One of the most baffling things about the instantaneous healings is that it is so easy to forget they happened. When supernatural healing happens its not like getting a surgery and still having the scar or the memory of what the pain felt like. The healing is so total its as if the injury or illness never happened and its hard to remember what it was like to feel that pain.
I think many healing miracles are denied as such because the person feels so much better they doubt that it ever really hurt to begin with. Be sure to listen all the way through, especially to the story behind the song beginning at the 5:40 mark.
The Power of Testimony!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_WSeZh5mWA
There is a lot of power in testimonies – they build our faith, they challenge our doubts, and they remind us that things we never even dreamed of are possible. Sharing and reading testimonies is an invitation to God to come and do it again.
Global Medical Research Institute is a Christian organization looking at reported miracles
using evidence-based research. They have lots of great testimonies and articles documenting miraculous healing.
The Increase app is another great resource for testimonies of healing.
You can search their database by keyword and read hundreds of testimonies of all sorts of miracles. Whatever the type or method of miracle, the goal is always the same: for people to have a love encounter with God. Not everyone I pray for gets healed, but my heart is that everyone I pray for would feel loved and honored and that they would get a bigger glimpse of God’s heart towards them.
One of the common fears I hear about praying for healing is that the person won’t get healed. You have no control over that. And if you fall into the belief that when someone doesn’t get healed that it’s you’re fault, you’ll also fall into the mistake of taking the credit
when they do get healed.
You Hurt God heals. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KeNSlQWdgec
Our job is stay connected to the heart of Jesus and humbly bring his love to the person we are praying for. Part of bringing that love well is not being weird about healing. If you make a big show, hyper spiritualize, don’t honor the person you’re praying for, blame their illness or injury on their sin or lack of faith, or make it about yourself, you are totally missing the point of praying for healing. And if you’ve encountered some of these weirdos that hurt you with their attempts to pray for healing, let me apologize to you on their behalf. That’s not what healing is about. You should always feel loved and honored when someone prays for healing.
How to Pray for Healing …
Start by connecting with Jesus’ heart, spend time in his presence. Knowing how to pray for healing flows from that intimate relationship with him.
When you pray for someone you want to pray from a place of being filled with compassion for them. Because love encounters are the ultimate goal it’s also important to make sure the person you are asking to pray for actually feels honored by your offer of prayer.
Don’t just approach every person you see with an obvious illness or injury. The quickest way to kill a love encounter is to make the person feel like a problem to fix or an attempted notch in your healing belt.
Don’t partner with the problem …
They are facing and come under the hopelessness of how bad it is. Partner with the solution and focus on how good our God of Miracles is. There’s no magic formula for how to pray for healing but these are some simple steps to get you started:
Ask them to rate the pain or injury on a scale of 1-10
Ask permission to lay hands on the place that hurts. If it hurts too much to lay hands on or is an inappropriate place to lay hands ask if you can touch their knee or shoulder as appropriate.
Pray with authority …
Commanding the pain to leave and inviting God to come heal. Keep your prayers short, simple, and not weird. It also can help to keep your eyes open as you pray so you can see how the person is responding. Are the uncomfortable? Does something seem to be happening in their body with healing?
Ask them if they feel any different, have them rate the pain on a scale of 1-10 again.
If all the pain is gone, praise the Lord and thank Him for healing!
If the pain is still there or has only gone down some:
Pray again thanking the Lord for what ever degree of healing has come already and inviting him to continue to heal
Ask them again if they feel any different, have them rate the pain on a scale of 1-10
If all the pain is gone, praise the Lord and thank Him for healing!
If the pain is still there or hasn’t gone away completely encourage them to continue to watch for signs of healing. Sometimes the miracle doesn’t happen right away but they wake up the next morning healed. Sometimes the healing doesn’t seem super miraculous
but is sped up much faster than usual.
Whether healing happens or not, show them love and bless them.
When Healing Doesn’t Happen…
The hardest part about miracles and praying for healing is when the healing doesn’t happen. It’s very tempting to get offended at God and begin to filter scripture through the lens of our experience instead of filtering our experiences through the lens of scripture.
I love Chris Gore’s short answer of what he does when someone he has prayed for doesn’t get healed and dies (you can listen to his long answer here):
“The first thing I do is I try to raise them from the dead.
The second thing I do when they aren’t raised from the dead is I bury them. The third thing
I do is grieve with the family. The fourth thing I do is I don’t get offended at the Lord for what hasn’t happened. And the fifth thing I do is I get up and I go again.”
While you may not be at the point of courage to pray for others yet, we all have loved ones we’ve seen not heal or personal wounds physical or emotional that we still are waiting to get healing from. As Chris says, there is a time to grieve that pain and loss, but the key is taking that pain to God instead of getting offended at him and shutting him out.
This song below is a powerful reminder that we serve the God of Miracles.
To God be the glory !
JESUS is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE! –
John 3:16 – For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,
that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
John 14:6 – Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life.
No one comes to the Father except through me.
Matthew 19:26 – Jesus looked at them and said,
“With man this is impossible,
but with God all things are possible.”
John 14:6 With GOD all things are possible – Matthew 19:26 Remember that JESUS loves you and JESUS saves✝️ GOD is good all the time and all the time GOD is good. Have a BLESSED day ✝️
Please be careful with the music you listen to and the things you watch! Please be careful with your life and pray to GOD and ask HIM to protect you✝️ AMEN!!!